Better Women - Cynthia Erivo (and Michelle Yeoh), Protecting Ariana Grande

 

Yesterday, I posted about Megyn Kelly, hair-splitting the definition of pedophile, in what appeared to be semi-defense of Epstein for what reason we don't know (but could guess, since Epstein's emails allege that her own pimp, Trump, knew all about the underage-girl trafficking).

Today, however, we're gonna talk about the sort of women who don't throw other women under the bus so they can shine. 😊

For those who haven't seen this yet, this is Ariana Grande's costar, Cynthia Erivo, jumping into action immediately to protect her costar, who was charged and grabbed by a fan, at the premiere of "Wicked: For Good" premiere in Singapore.

Because security was not in proper place, it took several seconds for them to even react - but Cynthia Erivo jumped into action immediately.


She began forcibly prying the attacker's arms from her, pushing him towards security, while Michelle Yeoh wrapped her arms around Ariana like a mother, as did Cynthia after dealing with him, both with their arms around her and shielding her.

Then -  as this video shows you - because security didn't throw him out afterwards  - HE DID IT AGAIN -  until security finally turned him over to authorities and arrested him.

This man does this serially for attention on social media and thus shall remain nameless.

In fact, he jumped on stage with Katy Perry last summer. 

And that's the thing -  if there's no consequences for this boundary-less behavior, they'll do it again - they don't stop themselves, because they can't stop themselves - so they have to be stopped. 

And Jeff Goldblum? 

I love you, but ... so disappointed in you, just standing there, doing nothing, letting the women deal with being ambushed themselves.

As you can see in Ariana's eyes, she's checked out completely, floating around in a full PTSD bubble (she has openly revealed she has PTSD from the terrorist incident in London).

THAT is what you do as a costar, teammate, fellow woman, and a human being.

There's a saying "character is what you do when no one's watching."

Unfortunately, women themselves are particularly skilled at behaving one way when people are watching/the cameras are on versus off/no one's watching. 

They spend a lot of time pretending to be the type of person they want to outwardly appear, instead of actually being that person.

However, note that in this situation, everyone was watching, yes - but Cynthia didn't even have time to think about appearances or care - in fact, she put herself directly in harm's way, within 2 seconds, to protect her costar.

It's times like these where you can see that some women really are the person they appear to be.

Fellow women - in moments like these, do you protect your costars, other women, or do you throw them under the bus so you can shine?

Cynthia Erivo and Michelle Yeoh both proved their character by instinctually jumping into action to protect her, putting themselves in harm's way to do so, and wrapping their arms around her.

And they're actresses, supposedly the most competitive, cutthroat women on the planet!

Go Cynthia and Michelle - especially Cynthia - willing to put yourself in harm's way to protect you costar and friend!

Women?

Please believe other women when they try to tell you something is wrong or you can see something is wrong -  until you have a reason not to - whether the threat to them is male OR another female. 

Because sometimes, like in this situation where security failed her, all we have is each other. 

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PS 

And by "gives you reason not to believe them" I do NOT mean using efforts to discredit the person like smear campaigns and their associated pile-ons, etc. -  that is not proof, and mob rule rarely makes the mob right.

Though this doesn't necessarily apply in this particular situation, especially because it's all on video, it does when women try to tell someone what happened, whether the perpetrator is male or female.

If you're ever not sure who to believe in a situation, remember these general guidelines as to what to watch for  ....

Victims ....

Initially question themselves or even blame themselves for bringing it on themselves somehow, stop talking, isolate, and even quit or leave because they fear not being believed (until they learn to fight back). 

They also enter therapy, at some point, which is when they learn how to fight back.

Perpetrators ...

Never doubt or blame themselves for bringing it on themselves, even initially - and they never isolate -  in fact, they usually do the opposite and try to rally support for themselves by playing the false victim, sometimes even enlisting others to help them attack on this false premise.

They almost never enter therapy, unless their lawyer advises them to for appearance sake or they are court-ordered to do so.  

Even then, they don't stay in therapy, especially if a therapist questions or confronts them (which any good therapist will do with every client, at some point, trying to better understand behaviors).

These are not hard-and-fast rules, but general guidelines of how to tell a victim from a perpetrator, when both are claiming victim.