13 Reasons Why, 3 Years Ago Today ...

... I made the best decision of my life ... and married this guy ...



(Video actually made for his birthday a couple of years ago :) 






In October, we will have been together for 8 years - and it only keeps getting better and better :)


You've heard of that Netflix show, "13 Reasons Why?


Well, here are 13 Reasons Why I Love My Husband :)

#1 -  The fact that football season is still a month away - and Halloween is still 2 months away - but he's already excited and becomes a kid again with both events lol. 

#2. The look on his face after cooking his favorite meals, when I set the plate down in front of him.


#3. The fact that he loves, and laughs, at zombie and Bigfoot movies. (I don't get it at all, they're not my thing, but the fact that he laughs at them and loves them, makes me shake my head and smile.)

#4. How much he loves his home town of Detroit and gets so excited when someone here in Kentucky has a Detroit Tigers hat or an MSU shirt. I even found myself yelling out my car window at a neighbor, "Go Green!" when they were caught wearing their MSU shirt lol. (He appropriately waved, smiled, and yelled back "Go White!" lol)

#5. The way he talks to our dogs and explains everything: "Okay, Dad's going to go change out of his work clothes, and then he'll take you for a walk, and then we'll have peanut butter, okay, buddies? " :)

#6. That he gets even more excited, moved, and grateful to our creator for nature and animals than I do.


#7. That he takes work as seriously as I do, and ensures the quality of his work - and works even harder than I do, despite being tired, sick, cold, hot, etc. - if he is asked to do it, he does it - without cutting corners, without making excuses - he just gets it done.

#8. The fact that he's taught me to be tougher - that I need to stop giving so much benefit of the doubt and stop letting others take advantage of my empathy. That sitting around praying for truth and change, like some sort of martyr, never works out well for me - because no one is grateful, giving ME the same benefit of the doubt or empathy, or even remembers sacrifices I made, so it's up to me to value myself enough to do this for myself.


That there's a time to put away the diplomacy and to tell people exactly where to go, because no one else will - and to stop giving a shit what people think about it because people like to make up their own narratives anyway.


#9. The fact that I've taught him to give a little more benefit of the doubt to people sometimes, and more importantly, I taught him - a former Army Ranger, responsible big brother to 4 siblings, golden gloves boxer, and a master's degree in IT - that it's okay to be silly, random, and absurd :) 

#10. After learning it's okay to be silly/absurd, he makes up better silly songs than I do about things, including "poopy songs" to facilitate our dogs when it's time to relieve themselves lol.

#11. That he's faithful and would still, inexplicably, rather hang out with me than anyone else in his life (?) - despite my graying hair and weight gain of 15 pounds since we married, and is so full of gratitude for every little thing I do, and still tells me I'm beautiful and sexy, every single day - when previous men never told me even once - though I have never felt beautiful or sexy my entire life.


#12. The fact that despite a couple of Trumpers best attempts to thwart his efforts at work and send him to Siberia, both because he didn't agree with their politics and especially to try conceal how good he really is in comparison to them - particularly taking advantage of, and actually making fun of, his initial stroke residuals (which are now gone) - he's now back where he belongs, by popular demand, finally getting the recognition he deserves.


Speaking of those 2 undereducated, underqualified, conniving little Trumpers, who acted all sympathetic about my husband's stroke to my face, then sent my husband to work Siberia and actually made fun of my husband's initial stroke residual symptoms (which are now gone) behind our backs?


Well - let's just say time reveals all - and their undereducated, inexperienced, good ole-boy cronyism, misdeeds, and admitted extramarital activities while at work finally caught up with them, as we speak :)
But let me just say this, "gentlemen" - and I use this term loosely - it has been verified by other people in the room, that despite your fake sympathy, you publicly mocked my husband's initial residual stroke symptoms (which are now gone) - so you better pray I never see you - OR your admitted extramarital, side-chick, office ho's who instigated it - outside of work, ever again lol.

Because in addition to the restoration of my husband, and despite my normally being very kind to everyone, as you've seen - I finally reached my quota with characterless, dishonest, arrogant, nasty little Trumpers like you, this week.


Thus, never forget that I, myself, am rooted in redneck, plus an educated, articulate half-redneck woman - your basic worst nightmare - and I can pull that girl out at any time I need her., which I'm happy to do over my husband.


So God help you, if I see you at the grocery store, a UK game, or even church - I'll make a public spectacle out you and famous, in this town - and not in a good way lol.

But from what I understand, neither you - nor your office ho's - will be at work much longer, anyway - it may take a long time for truth to come out, but nasty people always get what's coming to them, in the end - and the truth and true gems like my husband always shine through :)


#13. The fact that he fought his way back from that stroke, 2 years ago, now with no residuals AND despite the work nonsense I just mentioned above on top of it.

Mark and Dr. Azhar Aslam - the Pakistan-born MUSLIM interventional cardiologist who saved my husband's life (my husband had an undetected congenital patent foramen ovale or "hole" in his heart, causing blood to shunt from left heart to right, instead of go to the lungs for filtering, thus causing a leg clot to go straight to the brain and cause the stroke. Dr. Aslam discovered the problem through testing within 24 hours, "plugged" the hole, and now we're good as new. Others, like Luke Perry and John Singleton, were not as lucky. We are eternally grateful to Dr. Aslam for his "gift" to my husband.


Next to my daughter, my husband has been the biggest blessing of my life.

Happy Anniversary, Honey - thank you for coming into my life and blessing it - may we have many more years together ;)

(Tearing up as I'm writing this lol.)

I love you, more every day ... and yes, my life would suck without you :)