**PLEASE NOTE** - I use no other social media and my comments are closed due to persistent harassment and impersonation by one individual - sorry :(

Friday, November 30, 2018

Attempted Facebook Hack ...

Mark received an email morning that someone tried to enter his Facebook account, which is weird, because we both deactivated in July 2017.  Weirder, because on checking my page, he noticed my account was active -which is especially weird, because I logged in a couple of weeks ago because I was getting a lot of traffic from Facebook, but I deactivated again immediately, even got the deactivation notice.  

It wasn't me, I know his FB password and it wouldn't be an attempt, I would get in lol - but I haven't.

It's probably just a random hack attempt, but just in case it's not - I will not hesitate to contact law enforcement - especially if it is the same person (and friends) - and you realize this would be considered documentation of escalated stalking and probable jail time, this time. Just an FYI.

Friday, June 29, 2018

The Need for Stronger Stalking Laws: The Annapolis Mass Shooter Could've Been Prevented:


I think what struck me most about the Annapolis shooting was that it could've been prevented, had we stricter stalking/harassment laws and consequences. (Stalkers often hide behind the 1st amendment/freedom of speech laws). Some aspects struck me as eerily familiar. From the NYT:

His feud with The Capital, the chain’s daily newspaper, apparently began with a column in 2011 that detailed his alleged harassment of a high school classmate.

After Mr. Ramos reconnected with the classmate in 2009, his emails to her soon turned venomous.

“He seems to think there’s some sort of relationship here that does not exist,” the woman told a judge, according to court documents in a harassment case she brought against Mr. Ramos. “I tried to back away from it, and he just started getting angry and vulgar to the point I had to tell him to stop.”
After she told him not to contact her again, Mr. Ramos wrote in a 2010 email that the woman should “go hang yourself.”

Weeks later, the woman was put on probation at the bank where she worked. A supervisor told her it was because Mr. Ramos had sent an email — and had also called the bank — telling managers that the bank should fire her.

A judge gave Mr. Ramos a 90-day sentence, but suspended the jail time. Instead, Mr. Ramos was granted probation before judgment. He was ordered not to contact the woman and to continue getting therapy.

Not long afterward, The Capital published the column that apparently fueled his anger.

So essentially, this went on for nine years, the woman was put on probation at her job with no proof at all, other than her stalker's email, and even that email, used as proof of his stalking, couldn't put the man in prison.

Nine years after the stalking began, now five people are dead at a newspaper just for publishing the story.

Stalkers do not stop, they cannot help themselves.  They may find a new object(s) of their obsession - note that he began stalking the paper too - but they never stop - they have to BE stopped, and not with a newspaper article.

They often engage others to help stalk and harass their victims to keep themselves out of legal trouble, presenting themselves as the victim.


For instance, in this case, the calls and email to the bank, her supervisor putting her on a watched probation based on nothing but calls and an email, the stalker used her own job to do it.

As an observer to stalking/harassment, it may be very difficult to tell who is the stalker and who is the victim, because both will claim they are the victim.

It's especially difficult to tell if the victim is fighting back  or taking actions to keep themselves safe because current law can't help them.

Therefore, if someone - male OR female -  tells you they are being stalked or harassed, always believe them until they give you reason to believe otherwise - but take no actions yourself without being presented with in-context proof that they, themselves, could not have altered -  and encourage counseling therapy for the person, either way (because both parties are going to need it for different reasons).

As the victim, it is very difficult to know whether to tell your boss or not - because if nothing happens, you look like a nut.  But if you don't, what happened to Ramos' victims could happen to you.

My advice?  Tell your employers in advance, not after the fact.  Take that risk of looking like a nut to keep yourself and others safe.  Better safe than sorry.

Most police genuinely DO try to help you, but their hands are tied with law - the laws on stalking are very lax, particularly if the connection is over the internet. 

The stalker has to have a known address in the state in which you live before you can get an EPO, and all that is, is a piece of paper - and as you can see by this story, the sentences they receive are light, even for second offenses.

Stalking harassment can be done by either men or women, and both genders have often either murdered, or contracted murder (female stalkers typically contract murder rather than commit it themselves), for their victims.


However, to date, only men have been mass shooters - two of them having a prior history of stalking/domestic violence and were given "probation" as a sentence.

Once again, a persistent stalker/harasser is the reason my comments section is closed - not to leave my door open, but also to not to stop doing what I enjoy doing because of it - because that is what the stalker/harasser wants :)

Regardless ...

The police tried to help her.

The press tried to help her. 

So, are we ready to change the stalking/harassment laws, yet, or are we going to continue to legally protect stalkers who cry "freedom of speech" about their harassment until they murder or contract murder? 

 Or should we have more shootings like this one?

PS When they found the shooter, the coward was hiding under a desk at the Annapolis Gazette.  They love the "will I or won't I" feel of control and power they glean over their victims, love to terrorize and cause pain, but like all bullies, in the end, they are cowards, you see ;)

Wednesday, May 16, 2018

PS: Link to The Latest Impersonation Blog of Me

Here's the impersonation blog I was made aware of yesterday. (Apparently, it's been up for a while. I just became aware of it.)

http://chrysalis-thingsileftunsaid.blogspot.com/






That blog is an impersonation  - it is NOT me.

This attached profile should give a clue as to the true author ;)




Though that impersonation blog is similarly named to the name of my original blog under this same profile, that is not the correct URL of my original blog under this ID, which I deleted when I moved to this URL.

Other than an old and different Blogger ID (with attached blog) from 2005-2009 still existing that I lost the password to, years ago - this is my one and only ID and my only blog.

This is why my comments are closed - because this person has vowed never to cease their harassment of me (retaliation - because I came the closest to prosecuting them out of anyone they've ever harassed online - and there have been many - and the harassment/stalking/terrorism is not just limited to online.) 

So though as I said below, I'm taking an extended blogging break, I'm leaving this up as my one and only blog - so if you see anything else supposedly from me - just know that it is indeed another impersonation - from the same terrorist and troll friends :/

Wednesday, May 2, 2018

PS Gender Wage Gap With Nurses



When I read the full salary database study by Journal of  the American Medical Association on gender wage gap in nursing - that though 9/10 nurses were still female, but male nurses made at least $5,000 more per year (often much more) - I immediately thought of my great aunt, a World War II Army Nurse in the pacific theater. 

 In fact, she suffered from malaria and PTSD from the experience - which just like the men, she never spoke about.

Though not on the front lines, their medical tents were targets and in as much danger as anyone else in camps - unarmed - which means they couldn't defend themselves from threats - both domestic and foreign (if you know what I mean). 

(THAT is bravery, too, to me.)






 (My mother has a picture of her in her Army uniform on display in her living room, which has never been scanned, so unfortunately I don't have one for you. However, the  uniform she is wearing in the picture was nearly identical to the one in the poster above. )

She also had the really cool uniform with the cape, which she'd put on sometimes to amuse her grandnieces - she was our Super Aunt! :) 




My parents are only children, so I had no aunts and uncles other than my great uncles and aunts - and she was the only educated, military, and well-traveled aunt - she really WAS my Super Aunt :)

Whereas her sister, my grandmother, was very compassionate, but wouldn't stand up for anything to save her life (she was the baby of the family), Aunt 'Lizbeth was both tough and tender, and highly intelligent - she insisted we read Jane Austen and the Bronte sisters at 5 years old.  

(Yes, all three of us girls could read by age 5 - but at that age, we did her need help reading Austen and the Bronte sisters of course ;)

She brought us little demitasse Occupied Japan teacups (which my little sister accidentally broke as a child - whups).

This which is why I still love demitasse or miniature child tea sets to this day, particularly vintage Noritake or Nippon lusterware, Art Nouveau style :)



Or just 1920s Art Nouveau/Deco vintage Noritake (pre corporate years) ...




And she had a great laugh I can still hear, when I think about her :)

Then I thought of all the women like these during the Civil War, who nursed the wounds, held the hands and sang to the soldiers as their limbs were being crudely sawed off, when ether was a rare commodity - AS VOLUNTEERS - done  solely out of patriotic duty and the realization that anything they experienced paled in comparison to the soldiers.



This is shameful, America, for ignoring the history of this profession and slapping these educated, brave, noble and compassionate women in the face.

Because it was women who began this profession, which originally was done for no pay - as volunteers.  

It was women who were the original mercy angels.

They cleaned the worst wounds, soothed the pain, advocated for the patients with doctors, and held the hands of American soldiers as they took their last breath.

I'm not saying that men can't be just as merciful and wonderful nurses - I just don't understand why when only 1 in 10 nurses are men - in the nursing field less than 25 years - are paid more.

It's a disgrace, America :(

My aunt's name was Mary-Elizabeth Mann AKA "Aunt 'Lizbeth" - and I won't let you devalue or minimize the work she did and forget her, America :/

Thank you, Aunt 'Lizbeth, for what you did for our country and for all the men you cared for.  I'm sorry your brave and compassionate work - that caring for men and children - still has so little value, almost 80 years later :(

Love,

~ Chrystal Smith Chaplow