Attempted Facebook Hack ...

Mark received an email morning that someone tried to enter his Facebook account, which is weird, because we both deactivated in July 2017.  Weirder, because on checking my page, he noticed my account was active -which is especially weird, because I logged in a couple of weeks ago because I was getting a lot of traffic from Facebook, but I deactivated again immediately, even got the deactivation notice.  

It wasn't me, I know his FB password and it wouldn't be an attempt, I would get in lol - but I haven't.

It's probably just a random hack attempt, but just in case it's not - I will not hesitate to contact law enforcement - especially if it is the same person (and friends) - and you realize this would be considered documentation of escalated stalking and probable jail time, this time. Just an FYI.

The Need for Stronger Stalking Laws: The Annapolis Mass Shooter Could've Been Prevented:

I think what struck me most about the Annapolis shooting was that it could've been prevented, had we stricter stalking/harassment laws and consequences. (Stalkers often hide behind the 1st amendment/freedom of speech laws). Some aspects struck me as eerily familiar. From the NYT:

His feud with The Capital, the chain’s daily newspaper, apparently began with a column in 2011 that detailed his alleged harassment of a high school classmate.

After Mr. Ramos reconnected with the classmate in 2009, his emails to her soon turned venomous.

“He seems to think there’s some sort of relationship here that does not exist,” the woman told a judge, according to court documents in a harassment case she brought against Mr. Ramos. “I tried to back away from it, and he just started getting angry and vulgar to the point I had to tell him to stop.”

After she told him not to contact her again, Mr. Ramos wrote in a 2010 email that the woman should “go hang yourself.”

Weeks later, the woman was put on probation at the bank where she worked. A supervisor told her it was because Mr. Ramos had sent an email — and had also called the bank — telling managers that the bank should fire her.

A judge gave Mr. Ramos a 90-day sentence, but suspended the jail time. Instead, Mr. Ramos was granted probation before judgment. He was ordered not to contact the woman and to continue getting therapy.

Not long afterward, The Capital published the column that apparently fueled his anger.

So essentially, this went on for nine years, the woman was put on probation at her job with no proof at all, other than her stalker's email, and even that email, used as proof of his stalking, couldn't put the man in prison.

Nine years after the stalking began, now five people are dead at a newspaper just for publishing the story.

Stalkers do not stop, they cannot help themselves.  They may find a new object(s) of their obsession - note that he began stalking the paper too - but they never stop - they have to BE stopped, and not with a newspaper article.

They often engage others to help stalk and harass their victims to keep themselves out of legal trouble, presenting themselves as the victim.

For instance, in this case, the calls and email to the bank, her supervisor putting her on a watched probation based on nothing but calls and an email, the stalker used her own job to do it.

As an observer to stalking/harassment, it may be very difficult to tell who is the stalker and who is the victim, because both will claim they are the victim.

It's especially difficult to tell if the victim is fighting back  or taking actions to keep themselves safe because current law can't help them.

Therefore, if someone - male OR female -  tells you they are being stalked or harassed, always believe them until they give you reason to believe otherwise - but take no actions yourself without being presented with in-context proof that they, themselves, could not have altered -  and encourage counseling therapy for the person, either way (because both parties are going to need it for different reasons).

As the victim, it is very difficult to know whether to tell your boss or not - because if nothing happens, you look like a nut.  But if you don't, what happened to Ramos' victims could happen to you.

My advice?  Tell your employers in advance, not after the fact.  Take that risk of looking like a nut to keep yourself and others safe.  Better safe than sorry.

Most police genuinely DO try to help you, but their hands are tied with law - the laws on stalking are very lax, particularly if the connection is over the internet. 

The stalker has to have a known address in the state in which you live before you can get an EPO, and all that is, is a piece of paper - and as you can see by this story, the sentences they receive are light, even for second offenses.

Stalking harassment can be done by either men or women, and both genders have often either murdered, or contracted murder (female stalkers typically contract murder rather than commit it themselves), for their victims.

However, to date, only men have been mass shooters - two of them having a prior history of stalking/domestic violence and were given "probation" as a sentence.

Once again, a persistent stalker/harasser is the reason my comments section is closed - not to leave my door open, but also to not to stop doing what I enjoy doing because of it - because that is what the stalker/harasser wants :)

Regardless ...

The police tried to help her.

The press tried to help her. 

So, are we ready to change the stalking/harassment laws, yet, or are we going to continue to legally protect stalkers who cry "freedom of speech" about their harassment until they murder or contract murder? 

 Or should we have more shootings like this one?

PS When they found the shooter, the coward was hiding under a desk at the Annapolis Gazette.  They love the "will I or won't I" feel of control and power they glean over their victims, love to terrorize and cause pain, but like all bullies, in the end, they are cowards, you see ;)

PS: Link to The Latest Impersonation Blog of Me

Here's the impersonation blog I was made aware of yesterday. (Apparently, it's been up for a while. I just became aware of it.)

http://chrysalis-thingsileftunsaid.blogspot.com/

That blog is an impersonation  - it is NOT me.

This attached profile should give a clue as to the true author ;)

Though that impersonation blog is similarly named to the name of my original blog under this same profile, that is not the correct URL of my original blog under this ID, which I deleted when I moved to this URL.

Other than an old and different Blogger ID (with attached blog) from 2005-2009 still existing that I lost the password to, years ago - this is my one and only ID and my only blog.

This is why my comments are closed - because this person has vowed never to cease their harassment of me (retaliation - because I came the closest to prosecuting them out of anyone they've ever harassed online - and there have been many - and the harassment/stalking/terrorism is not just limited to online.) 

So though as I said below, I'm taking an extended blogging break, I'm leaving this up as my one and only blog - so if you see anything else supposedly from me - just know that it is indeed another impersonation - from the same terrorist and troll friends :/

PS Gender Wage Gap With Nurses

When I read the full salary database study by Journal of  the American Medical Association on gender wage gap in nursing - that though 9/10 nurses were still female, but male nurses made at least $5,000 more per year (often much more) - I immediately thought of my great aunt, a World War II Army Nurse in the pacific theater. 

 In fact, she suffered from malaria and PTSD from the experience - which just like the men, she never spoke about.

Though not on the front lines, their medical tents were targets and in as much danger as anyone else in camps - unarmed - which means they couldn't defend themselves from threats - both domestic and foreign (if you know what I mean). 

(THAT is bravery, too, to me.)

 (My mother has a picture of her in her Army uniform on display in her living room, which has never been scanned, so unfortunately I don't have one for you. However, the  uniform she is wearing in the picture was nearly identical to the one in the poster above. )

She also had the really cool uniform with the cape, which she'd put on sometimes to amuse her grandnieces - she was our Super Aunt! :) 

My parents are only children, so I had no aunts and uncles other than my great uncles and aunts - and she was the only educated, military, and well-traveled aunt - she really WAS my Super Aunt :)

Whereas her sister, my grandmother, was very compassionate, but wouldn't stand up for anything to save her life (she was the baby of the family), Aunt 'Lizbeth was both tough and tender, and highly intelligent - she insisted we read Jane Austen and the Bronte sisters at 5 years old.  

(Yes, all three of us girls could read by age 5 - but at that age, we did her need help reading Austen and the Bronte sisters of course ;)

She brought us little demitasse Occupied Japan teacups (which my little sister accidentally broke as a child - whups).

This which is why I still love demitasse or miniature child tea sets to this day, particularly vintage Noritake or Nippon lusterware, Art Nouveau style :)

Or just 1920s Art Nouveau/Deco vintage Noritake (pre corporate years) ...

And she had a great laugh I can still hear, when I think about her :)

Then I thought of all the women like these during the Civil War, who nursed the wounds, held the hands and sang to the soldiers as their limbs were being crudely sawed off, when ether was a rare commodity - AS VOLUNTEERS - done  solely out of patriotic duty and the realization that anything they experienced paled in comparison to the soldiers.

This is shameful, America, for ignoring the history of this profession and slapping these educated, brave, noble and compassionate women in the face.

Because it was women who began this profession, which originally was done for no pay - as volunteers.  

It was women who were the original mercy angels.

They cleaned the worst wounds, soothed the pain, advocated for the patients with doctors, and held the hands of American soldiers as they took their last breath.

I'm not saying that men can't be just as merciful and wonderful nurses - I just don't understand why when only 1 in 10 nurses are men - in the nursing field less than 25 years - are paid more.

It's a disgrace, America :(

My aunt's name was Mary-Elizabeth Mann AKA "Aunt 'Lizbeth" - and I won't let you devalue or minimize the work she did and forget her, America :/

Thank you, Aunt 'Lizbeth, for what you did for our country and for all the men you cared for.  I'm sorry your brave and compassionate work - that caring for men and children - still has so little value, almost 80 years later :(

Love,

~ Chrystal Smith Chaplow

The Compassion of Lexington's "Sweet Evenin' Breeze" - Angel of Good Samaritan Hospital :)

*Edited.

So, I think it's way past time for me to tell the Sweet Evenin' Breeze story again - because Christmastime especially is a time for compassion :)

About 20 years ago, when both my grandparents were still alive (who both lived to 91 - good, clean farm-living), my grandmother - whom I'd previously considered the most compassionate Christian in the world until that day - came home from church a bit rattled. 

She said, "I just helped Irene H. run some lesbians outta our Baptist Church. We stood up in front of God and everybody in the aisle, Irene gave a speech, and then cast them out. I stood beside her."

She said it with pride, but her face said she felt guilty and horrible.

My grandfather put his paper down, studied her face for a minute.

Pap:   "Oh yeah, well ain't you proud? Woooooweee, yes siree, Lawdy, I'd be proud if I was you - 'cuz I know'd that what's Jesus wouldda done.  Run 2 women sinners outta church for a sin you can't even prove, based on gossip. "

Granny: "Well, the bible says it's a sin."

Pap: "Well pride's a sin too, ain't it, and slander?  The bible says a lot of things, 'pending on who's doing the talking, but I thought it was 'sposed to be about Jesus..."

"... and your face says you don't feel so proud, you feel bad. That's because you know it ain't right to treat people thatta way. That's Paul's way, but it ain't what Jesus says..."

"... that Paul loved his Old Testament and his old church rules and control, that one.  Jesus didn't say nothing about it.  The only people he ran outta church were greedy and the only people he shamed were a bunch of Pharisees as hypocrites, judging other people on sin just like you and Irene did today..."

"... and by the way, we all know the truth about why Irene did that.  Because her own daughter's a lesbian.  She's just putting on a public show so nobody thinks it's her fault her daughter's gay, it ain't got nothing to do with Jesus, it has to do with Irene.  And I 'spect you know that, the whole town knows it."

Granny: "Well, we can't let that go on in our church, Orville, we might as well let molesters in there?"

Pap: "Oh Bullshit, Dolores, that ain't the same thing and you know it.  You think Irene's own daughter molests children?  I'm telling you them people can't help being gay, they can't help it! I don't care what the bible says with them old timey rule lovers.  Who would choose to be something that people feared and hated?"

"...That's why I don't go to church no more, nature is my church. A bunch of people sitting around making themselves feel better than everybody else by judging other people on rules they made up themselves, that's all church is now - it's as wrong as any other sin...."

"... and what about, Sweets, Dolores, you think he's a molester?  Do you ever think about him?  "

 Granny dropped her head.

Pap: "Yeah,  that's right.  I'd be ashamed, Dolores, I really would.  When you was anemic and so sick after Marth-Ann was born at Good Sam and back then, they wouldn't let me stay overnight - you were almost dead -  who came in and took care of you, held your hand all night, wiped your brow and sang hymns to ya, huh?"  Sweets, that's who.  Sweet Evenin' Breeze, Dolores...."

"...  and when I was so sick with 'pendicitis, thought I was gonna die, wanted someone just to shoot me and wondered if God was punishing me, who came into my room, brought me blankets for chills, held my hand, sang to me, said 'God ain't punishing you for nothing - we all gotta suffer sometimes in this life like Jesus, to know better what he went through for us -  but we'll do the best we can to make it stop'?"

"...Sweets, that's who. I'd never felt more ashamed of making fun of him or gays before then in my life, swore I never would say another word about them again. "

"... the Angel of Good Sam - Sweet Evenin' Breeze - ain't no better soul, man or woman, black nor white - than Sweets, Dolores, now you know it.  This whole town knows it, whether they admit it or not..."

"...so if anyone should be ashamed before God, it should be you and Irene H for how you treated them two, ashamed in honor of Sweets' memory.  Cause I KNOW'D God wouldn't send nobody like Sweets to hell, he was doing what God called him to do and believed in Jesus his own self, he counseled me on him directly, that night.  "

Who was my Pap referring to?

He was referring to the Angel of Good Samaritan - James Herndon/Sweet Evenin' Breeze - an African American, openly-transgendered, orderly/nurse.

Records show that Sweets was brought as an infant by his uncle to Good Samaritan Hospital for an eye injury and abandoned (though the rumor is that he was intersex or "hermaphrodite" as it was called at the time and thus why he was abandoned).  

The nurses there, raised him as their own.  To pay Good Sam back for their kindness, James/Sweets became an orderly, but considered himself a nurse - and by all accounts, he was the most compassionate, loving soul in Lexington, he sat with everyone, but sat longer with the worst of sufferers to comfort them - and in fact, forgave his uncle for abandoning him and lived and cared for him until his death :)

My grandfather got the true message of Christ, regardless of church rules or even church attendance - he saw the bigger Christian picture, whereas my grandmother didn't...

... as so did Sweet Evenin' Breeze...

... they understood that Christianity isn't about church rules, which Christ often defied himself when not based on love - it's about being a steward and servant of humanity just like Christ :)

** Security Alert ***

FYI, we have a court case pending at the end of June with 2 of the online trolls (not in this country) who helped impersonate me online & other harassment. They did so initially as a favor to a few someone we know in THIS country who wanted to keep themselves out of legal trouble here. These 2 are currently out on bail & we anticipated retaliation

On blogs, they began by "hitting" friends with impersonations (fake profiles), then me (6x) to make it look like it was me doing it. 

Today, a childhood friend was "hit" in just such a manner and impersonated and also privately sent strange text messages.

What happened today raised flags, but could be random. 

If anyone else receives anything strange, please let us know so we can add it to the documentation. 

Yes, the timing is odd considering discussion about the situation with my daughter & family, but we're chalking this up to random coincidence & observing for now. Thanks

PS The difference between "impersonation" and "hacking."

Impersonation =  Right-clicking on someone's picture and creating a fake profile with it.

Hacking = actually entering your account.

Mini-Vacation Bargain - Barren River Lake, Lucas, Kentucky :)

Ah, just home from a much-needed mini-vacay before Mark returns to work Monday - Barren River Lake Resort - a GREAT bargain! :)

The first bird pic is of a Sandhill crane, the second is a Cormorant:)

And much to Mark's dismay, there are no pictures of Bigfoot/Sasquatch lol (However, there were several concrete statues of him in the area?)

 A Sandhill crane...

A cormorant...

Our babies at the beach ... :)

Forgive my lack of makeup in these photos..

Lol - Mark's face when Speed Racer (Mark) starting to let me drive the boat...